Michele du Plessis
As feminists struggled for women’s rights, no one stopped to ask what the men were doing. They lost a piece of their rights and opportunities, resulting in dissatisfaction in the modern male.
Supposedly, men are not supposed to feel this way, but representatives of the “stronger half” seems to show discontent and frustration with the one-sided approach of feminism. These representatives started a movement called masculism in 1960 and they are fighting for equal rights.
Masculists are not picking a fight with the feminists; they just don’t want to be the knight on the white horse anymore. Here are the biggest problems that bother modern masculists:
Lookism is a prejudiced attitude toward the appearance of a person. Ordinary men also suffer from stereotypes because in their private lives and at work as attractive and courageous guys have advantages. According to scientists, the average woman dreams of a 6 feet, broad-shouldered, dark/blonde haired guy with brown eyes and a beard. The idea of the ideal man has been created by advertising and entertainment and is far removed from reality. Men’s lookism has very sad consequences, such as dysmorphophobia. Modern men start to feel ashamed of their bodies because it’s not fit, tan, or brawny enough. Dysmorphophobia leads to the abuse of steroids and depression due to the inability to achieve the ideal look.
In domestic violence situations, women are normally depicted as the victim and the men as the perpetrators. But, did you know that 30% of domestic violence victims are men abused by women? Women are more inventive when it comes to abuse as it can consist of emotional torture, stalking, financial blackmail, and sexual abuse and violence. Society does not take this issue seriously enough and most men feel too ashamed to ask for help.
Fathers have fewer rights when it comes to raising kids as it is the mother who normally receives custody of the children in cases of divorce in most countries. If he wants the children, he has to fight for them. Men have no rights at all when it comes to reproduction. The right to decide whether or not to have a child, when to do it, and who the father will be, almost always belongs to a woman. Also, fathers are depicted in literature, television and film as incapable to raise kids. But in most instances, the father is just as capable as the mother to raise the children. The role of the father in a child’s upbringing is incredibly important, and children from incomplete families suffer from a lack of male influence.
Men get the most dangerous jobs as there are professions that traditionally involve men exclusively, such as miners, loggers, and fishermen. Men die or get injured 10 times more often than women in the workplace.
There’s a taboo regarding men who like traditionally “female” activities thanks to strict gender stereotypes. There are stereotypes instilled from the childhood of what real men should and shouldn’t do, such as crying. Men are supposed to give up their seats in public transport and carry heavy things for females even if they just got off a night shift at a power plant or are having health issues. Also, husbands who earn less than their wives or who take paternity leave are still laughed at in many situations.Parents feel embarrassed for boys who decide to take part in some girlish activities such as playing with dolls or doing embroidery. At the same time, tomboy girls are more tolerated by these same parents.
Where is all this leading to? To the “Herbivore Men” or soshoku danshi of Japan who refrain from any relationships with women as they feel the traditional role is too burdensome or the “flower boys” of Asia? Perhaps we should sit back and reassess the role of men and women in society and get rid of all the “isms”: feminism and masculism. After all, we are all just people.